“The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children. Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory.” Romans 8:15-17
As I have been discovering my identity at a deeper level I have realized that the orphan mentality needs to be completely uncovered. What do I mean by “orphan mentality”? An orphan mentality can happen in Christ followers who do not fully understand that we have been adopted by Christ. When we accept Jesus into our hearts we are no longer slaves, or orphans, we are now adopted sons and daughters of God. Our relationship with the Lord changes and so does our title. We cannot live in the fullness of our adoption, and know who we are in Christ if we are still operating under an orphan mentality.
An orphan mentality is a lie from the enemy. Recently I have begun recognizing the relationship between opinions of others and an orphan mentality. As an adopted child of God, It is no one else’s job to validate you, but the Lord’s. The word validation means “to approve of; or confirm.” No one else can tell you who you are, and who you are not? No else’s opinion of you should matter because it is no one else’s job to validate you, but God’s.
I personally believe that when we place people in a powerful position by valuing their opinion of us over what God says about us we are falling into the devil’s trap. Yes, we need to encourage one another, but that should only confirm what God is already saying about us, it should not be what motivates us. The same goes when we value our opinions of others over God’s opinion of them. For example If I say, “I really can’t stand how this person does….” not only is it judgmental to say this, but it is also your fleshly opinion. I believe to think negatively about others is living through an orphan mentality. This mentality is not viewing them the way God views them. There is life and death in the tongue (Prov. 18:21) and when we speak negative words about another person we are putting down a creation of the living God. You are no longer seeing that person how God sees them, but how you are viewing them through an orphan mentality.
When you are a child of God and you know that you belong to the Father, you will know that your opinion about others honestly doesn’t really matter, the only thing that matters is what God says about the person. The same goes with their opinion of you. When you fully comprehend what it means to be a child of God no one else’s opinion of you will matter. You will know the fullness of God’s love for you, and who you are in Christ so deeply that the only opinion that will matter is God’s.
The best way to remove an orphan mentality from your life is by spending time with the Lord, and growing in your understanding of who he is, and who you are in Christ Jesus. Allowing the Father to pour His love into you, and receiving how He views you. I encourage you to go spend time with Father God today, seeking him, and receiving all the incredible thoughts, and opinions he has of you, his child. You are no longer an orphan, you are an adopted child of the King Jesus!